"But I also knew that one day, I would grow up. One day, I would be twenty, or thirty, or forty, even fifty and sixty and seventy and eighty and maybe even one hundred years old. And all those years were mine, they belonged to nobody but me. So even if I was unhappy now, it could all change tomorrow. Maybe I didn’t even need to jump off the cliff to experience that kind of freedom. Maybe the fact that I knew such a freedom existed in the world meant that I could someday find it."
FTM South Africa on Facebook
Hey guys, if any of you are South African trans men/partners of trans men/international guys who are also interested, join the Facebook group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/411534015573454/
It’s a closed group to keep it a safe space but one of the mods will approve your request. :)
"People assume that I was in the closet because I didn’t disclose that I was assigned male at birth. What people are really asking is ‘Why didn’t you correct people when they perceived you as a real woman?’ Frankly, I’m not responsible for other people’s perceptions and what they consider real or fake. We must abolish the entitlement that deludes us into believing we have the right to make assumptions about people’s identities and project those assumptions onto their gender and bodies.
It is not a woman’s duty to disclose she’s trans to every person she meets. This is not safe for a myriad of reasons. We must shift the burden of coming out from trans women, and accusing them of hiding or lying, and focus on why it is unsafe for women to be trans."
"But the stereotype has also become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Younger gay men think they must have perfect bodies because everyone expects them to have perfect bodies. This leads to predictable consequences: Gay men have a distressingly high rate of anorexia and are more likely than straight women to have an eating disorder. That’s a dark side of the quest for the six-pack, the one you never hear about during the fleshy revelries of a pride parade."
White House launches LGBT-inclusive Sexual Assault Resources
As Sexual Assault Awareness Month came to a close, the White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault has created and compiled resources for young adults—-and they’re LGBT inclusive.
Notalone.gov was launched on Tuesday to help connect students, schools, and advocates with resources for preventing and responding to sexual violence on school environments.
Additionally, under the site’s "Resources" tab is a section dedicated to LGBT survivors. According to the page:
- 13.2% of bisexual men and 11.6% of gay men were raped in adulthood, compared to 1.6% of heterosexual men
- 46% of bisexual women have been raped, compared to 13% of lesbians and 7% of heterosexual women
- More than 25% of transgender individuals had been sexually assaulted after the age of 13
Provided below these statistics are information about the Trevor Project Helpline, Forge, the Northwest Network, the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs, LGBTQ health, Health Resources and Services Administration, top health issues for LGBT populations information and resource kit, Native Youth Sexual Health Network, and CenterLink.
The site also includes resources for survivors with disabilities, immigrants, people interested in bystander intervention, and more.
This new resource hub is part of Vice President Joe Biden and the administration’s 1 is 2 Many campaign, which seeks an end to intimate-partner violence and sexual assault.
Autostraddle wrote of the campaign, "Whereas many sexual assault prevention campaigns focus on actions that women can take to avoid being assaulted — reminding women to watch their drinks or alert a friend if they’re going on a date — this one appears to be more focused on community accountability for the prevention of assault, offering some fairly concrete directives for how to prevent assault and support survivors.”
The article goes on to quote 1 is 2 Many’s website:
Support all survivors regardless of their gender or identity. Listen to their stores without judging or blaming. Offer to go with them to seek resources and services if they want them. Speak up if you hear comments that promote violence against women. Be aware of language that you use that degrades women and survivors of other identities. Don’t be afraid to be an active bystander and intervene if you believe violence is occurring and it is safe for you to do so. Be a role model for healthy relationships. Always treat others with respect and expect the same from others. Mentor and teach younger people to also act as role models. Join an organization that is working to end dating violence and sexual assault. Don’t have one in your community? Start one!
In January, the White House Council on Women and Girls released a report called “Rape and Sexual Assault: A Renewed Call to Action.”
President Obama said that month, "Perhaps most important, we need to keep saying to anyone out who has ever been assaulted: you are not alone. We have your back. I’ve got your back."NOTE: Bisexual + Bi Supportive people + groups may wish to bookmark this downloadable pamphlet: Does your partner blame it on your bisexuality? It could be partner abuse.